Never leave an Indonesian girl unattended in a swimming pool
It is necessary to
understand that a number of Indonesian women do not know how to swim. Although Bali is an
island the Balinese people tend to avoid swimming in the ocean. Due to tourist influence
the culture is changing. But before the arrival of tourists the people of Bali
would only enter the ocean if it was unavoidable. Also many of the women that
come from other places in Indonesia grow up in rural environments. They did not
have swimming pools and the ocean was too great a distance and impossible for
them to reach. A number of these women were also raised in a semi strict Muslim
culture where modesty is considered very important. They would not get away
with strutting around in a bikini back in their home villages.
It is important for
men that date Indonesian women to remember this. And it is wise for them to
have a go slow approach if they want their lady to join them in the swimming pool
or for a dip down the beach. With the right sort of encouragement and support
an Indonesian lady will enjoy the water. And she will do her best to learn how
to swim. But it may take time and a lot of time frolicking in the shallow end
of the pool. Teaching an Indonesian woman the basics of swimming is also a
great way to get to know her, and it is certainly a laugh. Just be careful not
to let her swim in the deep end alone as I promise you she will sink like a
stone if you do.
Don’t get nervous if your Indonesian lady talks to her friends in her own language
I was sitting with
a friend who was new to Bali and to dating Indonesian women. And he was having
a real problem because the love of his life would chat to her girlfriends in
her own language. He could not understand what was being said. And for whatever
reason, this always left him thinking that they were talking about him. My
friend then told me he was thinking of learning the language so he knew what
was going on. Learning the language is a great idea. But it is also important
to remember that if an Indonesian lady does not want you to understand what she
is saying, then you won’t. She will either switch dialects or she will speak so
fast that you won’t have a chance in hell of catching up.
When my friend told
me about his problem, I told him that when he had the opportunity he should
eavesdrop on a conversation between two women from his own country. And that he
should listen for as long as he was able before he became bored. At the risk of
sounding sexist, Indonesian women chat about the same things that western women
chat about. They chat about their friends and family, shopping, food, and
paying the rent. They pretty much chat about any topic that comes up in a
normal conversation between women. Although the men in their lives are
important they are not the be all and end all of their discussions. Put simply,
if you could understand what your Indonesian girlfriend was saying to her
friend. Then you probably would not be that interested anyway.
Respect her family and understand her culture
If you do these things your Indonesian girlfriend
she will reward you with everything a relationship with an Indonesian woman has
to offer. Indonesian women can be very caring, loving, supporting and fun to be
around. The rewards of dating an Indonesian woman will far out way the small
sacrifices you may be asked to make.
Watch your phone because she will be watching it
If you get the
chance watch an Indonesian woman use her phone. You will then notice that her
fingers swipe the screen so fast that they become a blur. You should also have
no doubt that this woman is reading and digesting information faster than any
super computer. Now imagine this same woman with your phone in her hands and
you may get my point. Indonesian women
view an unattended phone as an invitation, they will pick it up and they will
look. Never leave your phone where she can get her hands on it if you have
something to hide. They are also able to remember every call and text made from
the phone in a matter of seconds.
Don’t eat her food
You may be sitting
at a restaurant with your Indonesian girlfriend and she may offer you a taste
of her food. And then you may think it will hurt her feelings or be unmanly if
you refuse to take a bite. Now take a look in your girlfriend’s eyes and ask yourself
see if you can see a glint that you haven’t noticed before. That glint is female
Indonesian cruelty and she would like nothing more than to watch your head
explode. Remember your Indonesian girlfriend has been eating hot food since the
day she was born. And have no doubt that the mother’s milk she was weaned on was
laced with the hottest chillies available in Indonesia. It doesn’t matter how
good you are at eating spicy food you cannot compete with her taste buds. It is
also a well-known fact that you can strip paint with an Indonesian women’s food.
The food may look tasty but it is lethal and it will kill you. The best thing
to do is to politely refuse the taste and then hope she doesn’t offer again.