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Hold Onto Your Husbands
Married couples are retiring in Bali at an ever increasing
rate. This would seem to make perfect sense. A couple, who has worked hard all
their lives and built up a small nest egg, can retire to Bali and live out
their golden years luxuriously and relatively cheaply. The people are friendly,
the island is beautiful and the weather is perfect. But
more importantly a reasonable lifestyle on the island can be achieved for as little
as US $ 3000 a month. Bali could seem like a dream place to spend one's declining
years. But unfortunately this may not be as simple as it may sound.
Retiring to a place like Bali can place a heavy burden on a
marriage. There will be the expected pressures. The couple will have to adjust
to different foods, different ways of paying bills, different driving habits
and different laws for example. But then there may also be unexpected emotional
strains applied to the relationship. And one of these pressures may be
jealousy.
Western women considering retirement in Bali should think
about the level of temptation that will be placed before their husbands on a
regular basis. Bali is full of beautiful women, foreign and local alike. Any
man living in on the island will be confronted regularly by beautiful young
girls. He will see them wearing next to nothing and sitting astride motorbikes.
He will notice them parading along the beach topless, or in bikinis that barely
cover their lithe and lascivious bodies. And he will encounter them drinking in
bars or dancing seductively in nightclubs. And these women are just the tourists.
For a man, residing in Bali can be like living at the Playboy Mansion.
The beautiful and seductive young tourists are not the only
problem. Then there are the stunning Indonesian girls who are ready with a
smile and always willing to sit and chat. These women are not shy to approach
an unaccompanied man. And although not all of them are planning some sort of
sinister seduction, a number of these women have nothing but seduction on their
minds. They are more than willing to steal a husband from unsuspecting Western
women. To this type of woman, a rich Western man is the prize they have been
seeking most of their lives. They couldn’t care less about his marriage status.
They will weigh up what he has to offer and if he is deemed suitable, they will
start making their take-over plans.
The female population of Indonesia, over the age of fifteen,
is close to eighty million. If a woman retires to Bali with her husband and she
is foolish enough to allow him to roam its streets alone, then she could be
seen to be committing a form of marriage suicide. A woman contemplating this would
be very wise to learn from Indonesian ladies. An Indonesian women involved in a
relationship knows about her competition. She has to. She was once a competitor
in this most ruthless of games. Regardless of his excuses she will never let he partner
out of her sight. The risk of losing him is too high. She will keep constant
tabs on her man and she will shadow him at any given opportunity.
An Indonesian woman will do anything in her power to keep
other women away. A perfect example of this is the innocuous love bite or
hickey. An Indonesian woman will randomly mark the neck of any man she is
intimate with. She will not do this because she is overpoweringly caught up in
the act of making love. She will do this as a warning sign for other women to
keep away. For her the love bite is a dog pissing on a tree symbol of ownership.
It is a message to her competitors that they had better stay away.
©Malcolm Scott
Very nice article & Great information , your opening paragraph is very attractive and captures the attention of the reader. And i totally agree with everything that you have explained. I would like to be here to travel.
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ReplyDeleteMalcolm, I purchased and read your book whilst in Bali in December, 2012. That was my 16th trip to Bali and I spend all my spare time day dreaming about how I can one day live and possibly retire in Bali. As a Social Worker, mainly in the Kings Cross area of Sydney, I have seen many confronting, potentially dangerous and overall sad displays of human behaviour. I have seen death, brutal bashings, working girls reduced to inhumane treatment by their clients, chronic disease, homelessness, corruption and chronic drug addiction. I have also seen tenderness, kindness and hope. After reading your totally negative view of life in Bali, I asked aloud, "Why does he still live there and what gives him the right to vilify his host country"?. You and I both come from a country, (Australia) where on a daily, if not hourly, basis all of the experiences you wrote of occur. Does this mean that all of Australia is too dangerous to reside in? The answer to that is "No", yet you write of Bali as being exactly that. If a foreigner, or ex-pat as you call yourself was living in Australia and wrote a book detailing his/her horrific experiences of life whilst residing there, the general public view would be, go back to where you came from and get the hell out of my country. Now, with interest I read that you have somewhat changed your mind on just how "bad" life was/is in Bali and are penning a newer/more favourable version of life in Bali. I will astounded if you can find a publishing house that would consider, let alone pay you an advance to put it to print. There are many wonderful people living in Bali, both Indonesian and non Indonesian. I feel saddened for all of these people who have had their country and their very being belittled by you to resemble a sex addicted, alcohol addicted, violent, lawless, dishonest group of human beings. As a woman, without a husband to accompany me to Bali, I never feel unsafe. I was involved in a very bad scooter accident whilst there in December. I was the driver with my 17 year old son on the back. My injuries were horrific. We were 30 minutes drive from Kuta in a non tourist filled area. Out of nowhere came two Balinese men who spoke no English, tended to both my wounds and my sons, gave me bottled water from their small supply (did not ask me for money), used their mobile telephone to call a taxi (which was a far quicker mode of transport than waiting for an ambulance, called the scooter hire company to report the accident and arrange for someone to come and collect the scooter and calmed and soothed me whilst waiting for transport to the hospital. The taxi arrived and took us to the hospital. The taxi driver could not have been more caring and whilst realised the urgency of getting medical attention quickly, drove as gently as possible, did not worry about the copious amounts of blood saturating the back seat of his taxi and in his limited English also eased my anxiety. All the while, I had 5,000RP on my person as well as my visa card. I could not pay the taxi driver by visa and did not have the fare in cash. He did not question this nor refuse to help. My son wrote down our name, hotel name and room number for him to collect the taxi fare the next day. The man never came. I spent a week in hospital as well as a week in an Australian hospital upon return. I felt compelled to write this to honour the kindness of these strangers and the integrity of the Balinese and their culture that you blatantly insulted. I note that in a recent interview, you stated you are now living in Thailand......were you "run out of town" I wonder as a result of your book or perhaps you plan to write a book claiming the Thai people to be nothing more than ruthless, violent crooks?
ReplyDeleteIn answer to your very well written and long post, I do not live in Bali any longer and that is explained in other postings. It will also be explained further in Bali Raw 2.I was however not run out of the country as you hinted at. I left with two other expats who had also tired of living in Indonesia.
ReplyDeleteI’m also sure that I explained in other posts that I could have written about how wonderful life in Bali is. But there are plenty of books, magazines articles and travel brochures that currently cover that topical side of Bali. It is also my opinion that if Bali continues hide behind this pleasant facade then its problems will never be solved. In Bali Raw I attempt to pinpoint some of the problems Bali is facing in the hope that these problems can be looked at and addressed. Put simply, I love Bali and I would hate to see the growing darker side ruin such a wonderful holiday destination.
As far as what gives me the right to vilify Bali. Do I do that really, or do I just point out some of the things that occur in Bali and use my my own experiences after living there for eight years to do it? In your post you mention that we both come from Australia. And I do believe that Australians still have the right to express their opinion, as you have now expressed yours on the Bali Raw Blog.
In answer to your further concerns, you say that you work in Kings Cross and that it is a hazardous environment. First I would like to commend you on your work as I can imagine it is difficult and dangerous. But I would also like to ask that if a tourist with no knowledge of our country was thinking of spending a weekend in Kings Cross. Would you be within your rights, as a person with experience, to warn them of its potential dangers? Would you not be obligated to do so?
I am also sorry to hear that you had an accident in Bali and glad to hear that you were helped. I had a similar accident and my wallet and camera were stolen while I lay unconscious on the ground. Is it right to talk about one of these incidents and not the other? You would seem to think not. But again isn't the nice side of Bali routinely covered. Also even if it may offend, should tourists not be warned if there is a potential for danger?
Thank you for reading Bali Raw and thank you for voicing your opinion on this post.
Ive found bali and the balinese people to be fantastic, but I only spend 8 days a year there... living there would be a much different scenario and I guess you would see the true underbelly. I am very sceptical when it comes to local women although there are probably more gold diggers here in Aus than in denpasar...
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ReplyDeleteIn answer to your statements I guess there is good and bad amongst every sector of people. But the key with Indonesian women could be an understanding of their culture and their upbringing.
The majority of Indonesian women are brought up to believe that the male should be the main provider for his female partner. And then in times of difficulty he may also be expected to provide some financial assistance to her family.
Most of these women also believe that their role within a relationship is to be the primary caregiver. If an Indonesian woman’s partner fulfils his role within the relationship. Then she will be more inclined to be nurturing and caring within her own role.
This is of course is a generalisation. But despite cultural differences, forming a relationship with an Indonesian woman can prove to be very rewarding.
4 million people living on the island, and you picked all the scumbags that filled the (broke) hedonists' 'disneyland' of South Bali to represent the whole community. Yeah, right...
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